Thursday, December 31, 2015
Shifting your focus as you end the year...
I tend to buck the system when someone tells me to write my goals down because "you're more likely to achieve them if you do." Um, no actually I'm not. I am a writer, I write stuff all the time. And I've made plenty of lists, written plenty of goals only to later find that stupid piece of paper reminding me of what I didn't do. Writing is only half of the equation. There's no magic potion that occurs between writing something down and having it happen. Which I think is backed up by the article I found on Forbes.com stating "8% of people achieve their new years resolutions." We can SAY and WRITE till we die, that doesn't make it happen.
Why? Because change is hard. Growth is painful. And frankly when things get hard, when life gets busy, it's easier to just give in and be where we are.
I'm only 39 years old. I have lived much, I still have much to live. I am utterly amazed at how much I have changed in the last 10 years, how much I have changed in this past year. Sometimes I hear myself talking, recognize thoughts that I know I didn't used to have, and I can't help but be surprised at just how much I have changed. In talking with my son today, we discussed what it means to have a mindset that wants to try new things, explore, grow, and working to become something more than we currently are; I shared with him THAT'S the key to making things happen--you take the risk and do it, in the moment you are in!
I've changed, I've grown because I've worked at it. I read a LOT, I have people in my life whom I see as wise and will help me grow, I do the hard work and I don't give up. I may not move as quickly as I'd like in some areas, but I don't quit. I may take 50 steps backwards, but I don't quit. I may be crawling on the ground whispering "is this the end?" but I don't quit. I keep moving forward. I have grown ON PURPOSE because I have focused on the moment, remembering the end goal.
So, please, make your lists, write your goals, do whatever is necessary to get you focused but then actually do it. Don't set out to lose 80 pounds this year. Don't set out to read 15 books this year. Don't make some huge lofty goal because you think that's what you are supposed to do. Instead, set your mind on the fact that you want to grow, you want to become, you want to move forward...in this moment, on this day. A year is intimidating and for some of us a year is too large. We don't live a year at a time, we live a day at a time, a breath at a time. You want to read more? Then tonight read for the 30 minutes you'd be watching a tv show. You want to get in shape? Then pass on the donut and remind yourself it's about the moment and in this moment I choose to be healthy.
Grow on purpose in the moment you are in. Let the year happen, who cares about the year's resolution...grow on purpose in the moment you are in. The year is out of your control--the choice you make in the moment you are in, THAT'S yours to do with as you please.